Mmeso Kim Chinda

What I’m about to tell you could save your relationship/marriage from a problem you didn’t even know was there. Stay with me

Be careful when your partner suddenly stops complaining.
Sometimes, silence isn’t peace, sometimes it is exhaustion.
A perfect relationship or marriage isn’t about having a partner who never complains, but rather becoming the kind of partner who makes it safe for the other to speak and express themselves.

So…. There’s till once present, I mean very present, supportive, and peaceful lady. Unfortunately, a little while after getting married, she began to notice some cold attitude from her man, she would try to talk about them, sometimes complain, sometimes try to converse really calmly, but he wasn’t just indulging. After a long time trial and holding up, she became really exhausted and tired.
One of the days, she got home, dropped her bag, changed her clothes and quietly went about her business.

Her husband noticed something was different.
Usually, she would ask about his day, work, why he returned home late.
She would draw his attention when he ignored her messages.
She would remind him about things he promised to do. Communicate when she feels unseen.
She would even get angry when he spoke harshly to her or treated her poorly.

But that day, she said nothing.
The next day, nothing.
The next week, still nothing.

Her husband eventually laughed and said, “Ah, finally! My wife has stopped disturbing me.”

But what he didn’t understand was that she had stopped expecting. (And this right here, is really not a good and healthy sign).

She had complained so many times that complaining no longer felt useful.
She had explained her pain.
She had asked for attention.
She had asked for communication.
She had asked to feel loved and appreciated.

And every time, she was told she was too sensitive, too demanding or always complaining.

So eventually, she became quiet.
Not because everything was fine.

But because she was tired of been misunderstood or fighting to be heard.

Sometimes, the most dangerous stage in a marriage isn’t when your spouse is angry. It’s when they no longer care enough to be angry.

Anger can still mean, “This matters to me.”

But complete indifference can sometimes mean, “I’ve stopped believing anything will change.”

So, if your husband or wife complains about something repeatedly, don’t always dismiss it as nagging.
Sometimes, there is a genuine need hiding underneath the complaint.

Listen, ask questions, apologize when necessary, make adjustments.
And don’t wait until the person becomes emotionally distant before you realize that something has been wrong for a long time.

There is a kind of silence in marriage that should even frighten you more than an argument.

Shalom!

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