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Historically Black spaces exist for a reason. They were created out of necessity when Black people were excluded from institutions, opportunities, and spaces that were never built with us in mind. Preserving those spaces today isn’t “reverse racism,” it’s understanding WHY they had to exist in the first place.

Jasmine Crockett’s comments about Chris Brown sparked a bigger conversation for me about political accountability.

I’ve supported Jasmine Crockett, but supporting a politician doesn’t mean agreeing with everything they say or turning off your discernment. We can acknowledge the work someone has done, support Black women in politics AND still question something when it doesn’t sit right with us.Accountability shouldn’t disappear just because we like the person. Let’s talk about it.

There’s a difference between having your own political beliefs and building a platform by degrading Black people for approval. Being the “token” will never protect you from the same system you’re performing for. And THAT is the conversation. 🎯

A man told his future wife, during his PROPOSAL, that when he cheats she doesn’t cheat back… she just cries and asks why. And somehow everybody in the room thought that was romantic. 😭

Women, REQUIRE MORE. Love yourself enough to know that being chosen is not the prize if the person choosing you is comfortable hurting you. You teach people how to treat you by what you continuously accept. Sometimes self-love looks like walking away.

Stop being so afraid to lose a relationship that you lose yourself trying to keep it.

Black Americans were never “just making videos being cute.” There is culture in the way we speak, dress, dance, create, joke, style our hair, make music, build community and express ourselves. Black American culture does not become less valid just because it developed here in America, and acknowledging it does not mean dismissing Africa. We can respect African cultures without pretending Black Americans somehow came out of slavery with no distinct culture of our own. We have centuries of history on this land, and that history created a real, identifiable culture. Being “just Black” was never the problem. Believing Black American wasn’t enough was.

Fat Joe can contribute to hip-hop, grow up around Black people, and love Black culture. None of that makes him a Black man. And watching a room full of Black men go silent while he claimed Blackness and freely used the N-word said just as much as Fat Joe did.

The level of depravity society will tolerate from white women without ever attaching it to white womanhood as a whole needs to be studied. And with Bonnie Blue, it goes beyond simply being “treated as an individual.” She is allowed to continuously push into more disturbing territory, from sexualizing the idea of pregnancy to now incorporating a fake baby into the promotion of adult content, and somehow it all gets brushed off as shock value and entertainment. Meanwhile, Black women can shake their behinds and suddenly we need a national conversation about the “state of Black women.” THAT is the double standard I’m talking about.

The Lindsay Clancy case has me asking a question that goes beyond this one case: who gets to remain sympathetic after doing the unthinkable? Three children lost their lives, yet so much of the public conversation still centers her pain, her mental state, and her humanity. I want to talk about race, femininity, motherhood, and the level of grace society extends to certain women even when they are accused of causing unimaginable harm.

Keith Lee thanked God after a terrifying close call and somehow the internet turned that into “so you think God loves you more than the person who died?” 😭 That is NOT what that man said. You can think the post was poorly timed while still understanding that being grateful you’re alive does not mean you’re celebrating someone else’s death. People thank the universe, their ancestors, luck, manifestation and everything else, so why is thanking God suddenly where we draw the line? Sometimes gratitude is just gratitude. Everything does not need the worst possible interpretation.