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Therapy for teens, young adults & families in California | Anxiety, overwhelm, disconnection | Virtual sessions statewide
Anxiety doesn’t always announce itself.
It can arrive quietly, stay for years, and even look like we’re functioning just fine.
Some of the quieter signs of anxiety can include:
• Overthinking
• Perfectionism
• Avoiding
• Staying busy to avoid slowing down
• People pleasing
• Telling yourself, “I’m fine,” while suffering
Because anxiety isn’t always loud. Sometimes it’s hidden beneath a full calendar, a smile, or the pressure to keep it all together.
If this sounds like you, you’re not alone.
As a therapist, I talk with people about anxiety every day. I also know what it feels like personally. That’s why, over the next few weeks, I’m taking a deeper dive into anxiety—to better understand what it really looks like, why it happens, and practical ways to respond with more compassion and less judgment.
She takes emotional support very seriously…until it’s nap time 🤍🐾
Your teen has insisted they’re fine.
You’ve noticed the changes.
You’ve worried.
You’ve wondered if something was wrong, but every time you asked, they said, “I’m fine.”
Then, out of the blue, they say, “I don’t think I’m okay.”
As a parent, those words can stop you in your tracks.
You want answers.
You want to make a plan.
And most of all, you want to make their pain disappear.
But before you start problem-solving, try something different.
Slow down.
Sit down.
Take a breath.
And simply say, “I’m here.”
Then listen.
Not to gather information so you can fix it.
Not to prepare the perfect response.
Listen so your teen knows they don’t have to carry this alone.
The planning, problem-solving, and next steps matter—but they don’t have to happen in that moment.
And sometimes, the most powerful thing you can offer is not an answer, but your presence, your patience, and the reassurance that they do not have to face this alone.
Save this for when you need it, or send it to someone it might help.
This week has been all about pausing. Major theme in my life right now. Thank you for letting me share about it with you.
One of my favorite ways to pause is a few minutes with Lucy.
For me, these moments help me slow down, reconnect with myself, and return to what matters most. They remind me that I don’t have to react to every emotion the moment it shows up.
✨ What’s one small way you pause when life feels overwhelming? Tell me in the comments
Pausing during a conflict can keep a hard moment from getting from getting worse.
What we do after pausing can shape whether the conversation shuts down or opens back up.
We don’t need the perfect words. We don’t need to have everything figured out.
We just need to communicate that we are regulated enough to reconnect.
Sometimes that sounds like:
“I needed a minute.”
“I’m ready to listen.”
“Let’s try this again.”
Repair isn’t about getting it right the first time. It’s about coming back with intention.
What’s one phrase you’ve used—or wish you could use—to restart a difficult conversation?
In the heat of the moment, it can feel like you need to respond immediately.
You don’t.
When emotions are high, your nervous system is trying to protect you—not help you communicate. That’s why pausing can make such a difference.
Step outside.
Take a few deep breaths.
Let your body settle before you go back into the conversation.
A pause creates the space to respond with intention instead of reacting on impulse.
Have you ever taken a moment to pause that completely changed how a conversation ended? I’d love to hear about it in the comments.
In the heat of the moment, it can feel like you need to respond immediately.
You don’t.
When emotions are high, your nervous system is trying to protect you—not help you communicate. That’s why pausing can make such a difference.
Step outside.
Take a few deep breaths.
Let your body settle before you go back into the conversation.
A pause creates the space to respond with intention instead of reacting on impulse.
Have you ever taken a pause that completely changed how a conversation ended? I’d love to hear about it in the comments.
06/30/2026
After a difficult conversation with your teen, it’s natural to want to fix things right away.
But when emotions are intense, continuing the conversation often leads to more frustration than understanding.
That’s why I encourage parents to try a brief pause.
This isn’t about avoiding, it’s about giving yourself enough space to slow down, settle your body, and choose how you want to respond.
A pause won’t solve every conflict.
But it can change how you show up for it.
🌿Swipe through to learn how to use a brief pause, then save this post so it’s there the next time a hard conversation happens.
Have you ever found that taking a short pause changed the outcome of a conversation? I’d love to hear your experience in the comments.
After conflict, we often feel an urgency to fix things immediately.
That urgency makes sense—but it’s not always helpful.
Immediately after a conflict, we are less able to listen, problem-solve, or connect.
Taking a pause can create the conditions for a better conversation.
Pausing won’t solve every conflict.
But it can change how you show up for it.
🤍Save this for the next hard conversation.
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06/25/2026
What I’ve learned from sitting with hundreds of teens and young adults is this:
They aren’t looking for someone to fix them.
They’re looking for someone who will listen without immediately trying to solve the problem.
Someone who can help them make sense of overwhelming emotions.
Someone who can sit with uncertainty when life feels confusing.
Someone who notices strengths they’ve stopped seeing in themselves.
And someone who reminds them that they’re not alone.
Therapy isn’t about having all the answers.
It’s about creating a space where people can better understand themselves, navigate overwhelming emotions, and make meaningful connections.
That’s the work I feel honored to do every day.
💬 What do you think young people need more of from the adults in their lives?
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