Humble Hearts Therapy

So...where are all the pleased people?

Honestly? They don’t really exist.

People pleasing usually means everyone else is comfortable… except the person doing all the pleasing.

Therapy can help you untangle the belief that your worth comes from keeping everyone else happy all the time.

You’re allowed to have needs, boundaries, opinions, and limits too.

The goal isn’t to stop caring about people.
It’s learning not to abandon yourself in the process.

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A lot of people come to therapy worried about being judged, criticized, or told what they “should” be doing.

The reality? Therapy is usually a lot less about judgment and a lot more about curiosity, compassion, patterns, and growth.

A therapist won’t live your life for you, but we will help you notice the things that are keeping you stuck, challenge the stories you tell yourself, and support you while you build something healthier.

Sometimes with deep insight. 🧡
Sometimes with gentle accountability. 💚
And sometimes with lovingly calling you out on your own nonsense. 💛

✨ Ever heard of cognitive distortions?
They’re subtle thought patterns that can quietly shape how we feel.

Cognitive distortions are habitual ways the mind tries to make sense of things, especially when we’re tired, stressed, or overwhelmed.
They’re not flaws.
They’re protective habits that may no longer serve us.

If your mind feels loud, it doesn’t mean you’re doing life wrong.

Support, mindfulness, and therapy can help create space between you and your thoughts.

✨ You don’t have to do that work alone.
Therapy can help!

Here are my top three, 5 star reads of 2025:

⭐The Power of Fun: How to Feel Alive Again by Catherine Price

This book reframes joy, play, and lightness as biological needs, not rewards. Fun helps our nervous system reset, improves resilience, and makes life feel more livable. Yes, fun counts as self-care.

What I especially appreciated is how this reframes fun as intentional and mindful, not forced or performative. Fun doesn’t have to be loud, social, or high-energy. Quiet joy counts. Cozy counts. Solitary counts.

Therapeutic takeaway:
If life feels heavy, the answer isn’t always “do more work.” Sometimes it’s “add more fun on purpose.”

⭐Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes

This book is a reminder that growth often begins with gentle courage. Saying yes isn’t about forcing change, it’s about loosening the grip of fear and allowing life to meet you halfway. A beautiful reflection on expansion, discomfort, and trust.

The premise is simple but powerful: for one year, the author commits to saying yes to opportunities that scare her. Not reckless yeses, but intentional ones that challenge avoidance and self-doubt.

Therapeutic takeaway:
Change rarely happens through pressure or self-criticism. It happens when we gently expand our comfort zone, one small yes at a time.

⭐️Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine By Gail Honeyman

A powerful portrait of loneliness, trauma, and the quiet ways people survive. This book captures something I see often in therapy: healing doesn’t always look dramatic, it often looks like one safe connection at a time.

The story follows Eleanor, a woman living a very structured, solitary life. She values routine, speaks literally, struggles socially, and experiences the world differently.

Eleanor isn’t “fixed” by insight or self-improvement. She heals through safe, ordinary connection and small moments of kindness, consistency, and being seen. The kind of connection that slowly softens protective walls rather than forcing them down.

Therapeutic takeaway:
Loneliness is not a personal failure. And patient, respectful, human connection can be profoundly healing