Firefly Equine Services LLC

Exciting news! 🤩

Firefly Equine is relocating!!

New environments bring new opportunities and experiences. I’m looking forward to expanding my horizons and building a community with a strong focus on youth rider’s development within this sport and their own love for horses as a whole.

I’ll have a few spots opening up for clients come the fall but will be very limited in order to be able to best focus on correct direction and training.

Thank you to everyone who has supported me throughout this journey of growth and passion for animal welfare and care.

I will be continuing to offer bodywork and PEMF alongside training, coaching and showing.

Excited for what the future has in store for the Firefly Team 🥳❤️

This is why we do it ❤️🫶🏼

Worth the read 😉

Most riding instructors did not start this career because they wanted to manage difficult conversations about boundaries. They started it because they love horses and wanted to teach. The instructors who last in this industry are the ones who learned (often the hard way) that boundaries are not optional extras you add once you are established enough to "afford" them. They are part of running a professional program from day one. Here is where boundaries matter most and how to hold them without apology...

1. Your time outside of lessons is yours.
Texts at nine at night about tomorrow's lesson. Calls during dinner about a schedule change. Messages on your day off asking for advice about a horse buying decision. None of this is malicious but most clients genuinely do not think about the fact that you have a life outside of teaching their child to ride. If you respond immediately every time, you train them to expect immediate responses always. Set communication hours and state them clearly in your new client materials. Then actually hold them, even when it feels easier to just answer the message.

2. Your schedule is not infinitely flexible.
The family that needs to move their lesson time again. The parent who wants to add an extra session this week because of an upcoming show. The student who is consistently five minutes late and expects the lesson to run the full length anyway. Every accommodation you make sets an expectation for the next one. A clear scheduling policy communicated at enrollment and held consistently protects your time and your sanity far more effectively than saying yes every time and quietly resenting it later.

3. Rail commentary is not welcome during lessons.
This is one of the hardest boundaries to set because it usually involves a parent who genuinely believes they are helping. A parent calling out instructions from the rail undermines your authority, confuses the student, and turns a structured lesson into a tug of war between two voices. Set this expectation clearly before the first lesson that questions and feedback happen before or after the lesson, not during it. If it happens anyway address it directly and privately. This is not about ego, it is about your student getting one clear consistent voice to learn from.

4. Payment terms are not negotiable on a case by case basis.
The family that is reliably a few days late every month. The client who wants to pay per lesson when your program runs on monthly tuition. The parent who asks for a discount because their child missed two lessons this month. Every exception you make becomes the new expectation for that family and often for others who hear about it. A clear payment policy applied consistently to everyone is not harsh. It is the foundation that makes your program financially sustainable for everyone in it including the horses.

5. "No" is a complete sentence.
You do not owe a lengthy explanation every time you decline a request. No I cannot fit in an extra lesson this week. No I am not available on my day off. No we cannot extend the lesson because you were late. A short, professional, non-apologetic no protects your time and your energy far more effectively than a long justification that invites negotiation. The families who respect your "no" are the ones worth keeping. The ones who push back against it are showing you something important about the relationship.

6. Hold the same standard for everyone.
The boundary that gets broken for your longest standing client or your highest paying family becomes the boundary that does not really exist. Consistency is what makes a boundary a boundary rather than a suggestion. It will occasionally cost you a client who feels entitled to an exception. It will also build you a program full of families who respect your professionalism which is worth significantly more in the long run.

Boundaries are not about being difficult. They are about running a program that is sustainable for you, fair to your students, and respectful of the horses who depend on a schedule and a routine that boundaries help protect.

You are allowed to have them and you do not need to apologize for them. The families and clients worth keeping will respect them without you having to explain why.

What boundary took you the longest to actually hold?

Good day for a relaxing Magnawave session 😴🥱

Summer camp is in full swing!!!

A few signs ups left for the June 15-19 camp. ☺️

Some cute, some funny, and one very relaxed photos of Bubbles who is oh so perfect

A little update on her
Today was her 5th ride under saddle and 8th ride (first 3 ba****ck) since her surgery on January 15th of this year

She had 5 vertebrae shaved down due to calcification and breakdown caused my close proximity, or in other words, kissing spine.

Her rehab was a long journey. She was cleared for hand walking after the first week, but unfortunately, she was extremely uncomfortable with her staples and became very explosive during the attempted walks so she ended up spending the first two full weeks stuck in her stall. I can’t imagine what a nightmare that would’ve been, with absolutely nothing to do, but eat hay and turn in circles.

The next few weeks had a bunch of up and downs, some days I saw excellent progress and other days she was a little bit of a nutcase. She struggled to process what she was feeling both physically and mentally and often times that led to her being a bit explosive.

I knew when I originally made the decision to spend the thousands of dollars on a surgery for a horse who had given me nothing, a horse who had far from proven she was “worth it”, would come with ridicule and judgement and let me just tell you- IT DID.
Even I questioned my decision during really hard days of rehab.

But something felt ✨right✨ with Bubbles and so I continued on and pushed through.

We stuck with our rehab and, over time, she started to come back to her gentle and easy-going nature. Relaxing through her movements, beginning to trust in my ability to guide her without force.

As she continued to develop on the ground, we worked on entertaining her mind and not only her body through simple trick training and just really bonding and getting to know each other. 

120 days later, she had her first ba****ck ride in the round pen. We have done so much and worked on so many different things to get to where we are, but I can proudly say that on today’s 5th ride under saddle, she required zero prep and went straight into work, willing and beautifully, quiet and gentle. I couldn’t ask for better results, I’m truly blown away by her ability to not only adapt, but continue to try for me.

Really beautiful experience for me - following my morals and values and experiencing first hand what remarkable things are possible when we TRULY listen to our horses and do for them what needs to be done.

*in the comments are before and after photos of the kissing spine section

Having fun and learning all the things at our first UDJC show today!

Fall series, we are coming for you!