Rachel Hansen LCSW

If you came from a high control environment, you were taught to question everything except your own doubts. So when you start deconstructing, even with a partner doing it alongside you, the loneliness doesn’t just disappear. That confusion makes sense, and you’re not alone in it. The full video is on my long-form channel.

A nervous system stuck in survival mode doesn’t know the difference between then and now. This is the exact grounding exercise I walk clients through when the body is bracing and the brain can’t catch up.

I go deeper into this on my YouTube channel, ThriveWellTherapy, if you want the full picture.

You do not have to resolve everything or relitigate the past. The first step is simpler than that: observe your sibling without the lens you were given about them. Don’t argue, don’t get involved, just watch who they actually are. The only way to heal these relationships is to take off the old lens and allow a new one to develop.

I go deeper into this on my YouTube channel, ThriveWellTherapy, if you want the full picture.

Yeah that’s the story of my life…

Whether I earned the rest and needed to take it or whether I’m going to fast for someone else. Always being told to slow down. It’s a sign of a high achiever… anyone else? 😂😂😂

Have you ever felt your body reacting like something is wrong, racing heart, tight stomach, shaky hands, when your mind can’t find a reason for it? You are not broken and your body is not malfunctioning. Often the body picks up on something before the mind has caught up enough to name it. This is especially true if you have spent years pushing feelings down, whether from trauma, from being neurodivergent in a world that wasn’t built for you, or just from learning early on that it wasn’t safe to feel things out loud.

In this clip I walk through a real moment of this happening to me, and what it taught me about listening to the body instead of overriding it.

If this resonates and you are looking for support, I offer therapy in-person in Las Vegas, Nevada, and online across Nevada, New Jersey, Colorado, and Utah. You can book a consult here: https://thrivewelltherapy.clientsecure.me/request/service

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Somatic therapy isn’t just for the uncomfortable feelings! Tap into the positive experiences too. What is it for you?

If you grew up in a high-control religious environment and your brain already had to work harder to read the room, the consequences came more often and for reasons that made no sense. Over time the monitoring becomes both a neurological compensation and a trauma response at the same time.

I go deeper into this on my YouTube channel, ThriveWellTherapy, if you want the full picture.

“Grow up. Pull yourself out of it. Rise above it. Leave it behind.” A lot of us were taught that healing means climbing away from what hurt us, especially if you’re healing from religious trauma or leaving a high control group. In this clip I talk about why that framework backfires, and what healing actually looks like instead. Full video is on my YouTube channel, Thrive Well Therapy with Rachel Hansen. I work with clients navigating religious trauma, high control group exit, and complex trauma, in person in Las Vegas and online across Nevada, Utah, Colorado, and New Jersey. If this resonates, I’d love to hear what healing has looked like for you.

Privacy isn’t the same as secrecy. One protects you. The other protects the system.

Full video is on my long form channel, ThriveWellTherapy 🎥